i never have liked the “just girly things” series.
So, this is awesome.
So, there are a number of things wrong with this.
All right, you don’t like the “just girly things” series. That’s perfectly your right. However, the main thing that strikes me here is that, by comparing the posts to photographs of war tragedies, you are basically saying “how dare teenage girls be upset when all this horrible stuff is happening in the world/has happened in the past”. That’s not OK.
The wars were terrible. War is terrible. We all know this. But that doesn’t change the fact that falling out with friends is terrible. That feeling as though you’re all alone is terrible. No, this isn’t comparable with the horrors of war. Not at all.
So why are you comparing them?
The tragedies illustrated in this post are heartbreaking, but you should not be appropriating said tragedies in order to shame teenage girls and what you clearly see as their “silly” problems. Regardless of what you may think, the problems faced when you’re a teenager are serious. They can feel like the end of the world. Remembering the Holocaust isn’t going to magically make you feel better about your own situation, because it doesn’t work like that. All this photoset says to teenage girls is “shut the fuck up, girls, you don’t have real problems”. That’s invalidating and it’s really horrible behaviour.
Moving on to address the pictures that don’t rely on emotional manipulation and invalidation: are you honestly comparing a girl wanting some new jewelry to the abuse of people? Are you really associating a fun beach visit with a friend to storming the beaches at Normandy? What are you trying to say? That whenever a girl visits the beach, she should be thinking about D-Day? That she shouldn’t want jewelry because some people are bound in chains? That when she says “everything happens for a reason” in regards to her own life and her own experiences, she’s saying “hey, war’s OK!”? I fail to understand what you’re doing by associating these horrific pictures with innocent enjoyments from a girl’s teenage years, aside from continuing to say “how dare you be happy and enjoy things, when this has happened/is happening”.
According to this post, teenage girls aren’t allowed to be happy because there’s tragedy in the world, and they’re not allowed to be sad because there’s tragedy in the world. This post implies that their suffering isn’t real, that they’re silly and superficial, and that they should spend their lives thinking about all the horrors that have happened.
Newsflash: it’s perfectly possible to have your own emotional problems in your personal life and be capable of empathy for the tragedies that befall other people. Maybe you should think about this before shaming teenage girls for feeling things with graphic photographs of war and death.
reblogging for commentary. Stop shaming teenage girls just for being teenage girls.
WOW THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT I JUST SAID ONLY IT’S EXPLAINED SO MUCH BETTER.
Reblogging this again for that A+ commentary!